Trigger warning: Involves magick and masturbating
Hello beautiful souls, It's February, and that means you will see all the advertisements for Valentine's Day everywhere you look. This time of year can be very challenging emotionally for some people, and I'm not just talking about singles who wish they had a valentine for the holiday. You will see pink, red, white, and heart-shaped everything literally everywhere. It's unavoidable. This doesn't mean it has to continue to be a negative source for you. If you wish you had a sweetheart in your life, but you don't, it's unhealthy to dwell on it. Instead, show yourself some love and perhaps try my ritual that I'm sharing with you today. I created it just for you!
For those of you who don't have a sweetheart ask yourself is it in my highest and best good to be partnered at this time? If it's a yes wonderful keep stirring your energies towards finding a partner that suits you and if it's a no honor that it's a no at this time and know that it could be a yes a week later Ask yourself what lessons can be learned right now while you're not partnered. What gifts can you give yourself?
Supplies:
Sage or Paulo Santo for smudging
Pink pillar candle and a holder for it
White tea light candles - however many you would like for your space
Matches or a lighter
Vanilla or cinnamon incense (or whatever smells sexy to you)
Jasmine essential oil or jasmine body oil will work
Favorite lotion, body oil, and/or perfume
Your favorite chocolate - bonus points if you bake yourself heart-shaped cookies or buy them
Red wine if you drink, hot cocoa if you don't
Rose quartz heart, or however many pieces you’d like around you in whatever shape you have
Music of your choice
Other items:
If you have them to set up your space, use fake or real rose petals, a bath bomb, and lingerie or be skyclad.
Jasmine is the flower of attraction and is a common element in promoting spiritual love and desire. Jasmine’s heady fragrance evokes feelings of passion and is the perfect accompaniment in this ritual. Its calming and sensuous properties affect the mind, stirring sensuality and opening you up to the divine beauty all around.
Cinnamon fills the room with a warm, comfy feeling. It can be burned to sanctify an area or object to increase the spiritual "mood", to aid in healing spells or in healing in general. Often used in love spells to draw in love and happiness. Great for money spells too.
Vanilla is commonly used in love and passion spells. It is known to enhance feelings of inner peace and comfort.
Rose quartz has been used in love rituals and ceremonies for centuries and remains the stone of the hopeless romantic. It’s not just romantic love that rose quartz crystal embodies. The rose quartz stone's meaning is one of unconditional love. The way it facilitates love entering your life is through its ability to bring your consciousness to a higher level. It can also help with forgiveness.
*Please use caution when dealing with any live flame. Make sure you have proper holders for your candles, and pets won’t be able to drag a fluffy tail through the flames. (I’m talking to all the cat owners right now lol)
Before the ritual:
Set up your space with all your supplies that you need in whatever way makes you feel comfortable. Spread rose petals on the bed and floor. Go take a cleansing shower or use a fancy bath bomb and soak in the tub for a while. Once you’re out, wear lingerie that makes you feel sexy or nothing at all - as in skyclad. Smudge yourself and clear your energy. You are now ready to be in a sacred space with yourself.
For the ritual:
This is the time to cast your circle if that is in your practice. Take your Pink pillar candle and anoint it with the Jasmine oil (if you have it, if not that is ok too). Hold it to your heart chakra and pour self-worth and love into it. Place it in its holder and light the candle. *Light any other tea lights you have at this time. Light your incense and thank yourself for taking this time for yourself. Remove your lingerie and take your body lotion or oil and go over every inch of your body with it. Do this slowly, really appreciate your body and its beauty. Embrace what you feel are imperfections. Feel good about it all. Your body carries the gorgeous soul spark that is you. Feel your toes, the back of your knees, the insides of your thighs, your buttocks, run your hands over your stomach up to your breasts, cradle them in your hands and stimulate your areolas. Continue up your neck and behind your ears, touch your face, and run your hands through your hair. If you'd like, give your hair a few firm tugs.
Find a comfortable position to lie in. You will start to stimulate yourself in this position. The purpose here is not to finish to climax as quickly as possible but to take yourself to a different level with your own body and to reach climax multiple times. This may be something you haven’t done before or you may be quite familiar with it. Do these next tasks in whatever order you like, but I do encourage you to try them. Wet your fingers and start to stimulate your clitoris. Start off going slow, increase your speed as your arousal spikes, then pinch your clitoris between your thumb and finger. Do this a few times and go back to a pleasing pace for yourself. Bring yourself close to climax and back away. Continue to climax when you’ve done that. Now take a deep breath in, and on the exhale out, slide your finger inside your womb. Pull out and continue to breathe and slide your finger in and out, focusing on the pleasure you are giving yourself. Feel your womb. Find your G-spot. It will be a slightly raised mound a couple of inches inside, on the top of your womb. When stimulated, it will feel like you have to pee, but that is the beginning sensation of stimulating your G-spot. After you’ve explored your body and have continued to breathe, bring yourself to climax. Do these steps until you feel euphoric. Afterward, enjoy your sweets and wine or cocoa. Give thanks for the beautiful experience you just gave yourself. Place your rose quartz on your stomach and sit with the physical and emotional feelings that you are experiencing after this self-love act. You may close your circle when you are ready.
I do so hope this was a wonderful new experience for you. Be blessed on your journey and remember your vessel is sacred, and you deserve to treat it as such.
Love and Light,
Shara
